How do you handle men ?
Silly question isn’t it ? But just imagine a petite size baby girl handling a group of hunks. It looks funny and it smells funny. Anyway any suggestion ?
But just imagine a petite size baby girl handling a group of hunks.
I recommend you review a series titled “Facial Frenzy”
This could have what you’re looking for…I found it to be pretty offensive myself, but those girls certainly know how to handle a group of Hunks…
smells funny indeed! ::YUCK!::
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What’s next? How to handle a transgendered people who don’t like chocolate covered raisins?
Are you asking how to use your “feminine wiles� My answer is don’t, it’s tacky and unprofessional.
I would like to assume that there are cultural differences that might make you ask such a question…but, this question is actually somewhat offensive to people in the USA. Treat both genders and everything in between firmly and with respect. Also, referring to yourself as a “baby girl� Sorry, I’m pretty sure you’re a grown woman, baby girl is a toddler, enough of participating in infantilizing women in professional setting.
enough of participating in infantilizing women in professional setting.
Aw-CRAP! she’s talking about a professional setting?? I thought she was referring to good old wholesome weekend entertainment…
actually, i am not sure.
if it’s outside of professional setting, different strokes for different folks.
I’m still trying to figure out what the question is!
Cherrygirl…are you Japan, China? I’ve read that Japan seems to idolize cuteness, so perhaps this is where the whole “baby girl” thing comes from. But a petite, baby girl? I’ve never seen a large baby girl.
I’m just plain confused about this one.
I recommend you review a series titled “Facial Frenzy”
This could have what you’re looking for…I found it to be pretty offensive myself, but those girls certainly know how to handle a group of Hunks…
smells funny indeed! ::YUCK!::
Officially the funniest reply I have read all week. Excellent work.
I’m still trying to figure out why this cheerygirl keeps using a design forum to learn about how to deal with people? I would say step 1 is talking face to face with someone. Step 2 is learning from that experience and then repeating step 1.
Thank Goodness someone enjoyed it JEEEZ! I could hear the crickets all day…
LOL !
Cheery…go read everything you can by Dale Carnegie. esp. How to win friends and influence people. It’s all you’ll ever need to know how and get better at dealing with and getting along with people (any people).
all got my questions wrongly read !!!
baby size meaning I am small sized compared to the guys. How should I put it…I mean I find it somewhat awkward to have a group of men walking behind me. There is no agenda about how to handle men as in using what ever tactics !! I can work with guys without any whatever tactics that is mentioned here. I just thought its really strange to have someone who is so small sized to lead a group of men who are like 6 ft tall on average.
That’s ALL!!! Its like a simple scenario BUT I think its a bit strange. Maybe its because I am used to work behind the scenes and working in front of it makes me feel shy !!!
I think leading others is more of a theatrical experience than actually being born a natural leader. Or better stated act like a leader and others will follow. Many women I worked with in my pre 20 years were dominate leaders and lead as such. As a Russian Engineer she at a 5 foot tall was not hard to work for. (she was demanding and hard to please but that’s a different story). Being short might seam as a disadvantage, but I assure you from a male perspective it is more attitude than height and you can project yourself if you practice. Get your head right and carry a big stick. or was it speak softly and carry a big stick?
Bart, melovecookies and all,
Its true in the western perspective. But somewhat in an asian perspective, to lead a group of men is somewhat not seen in the same manner. Further, the more important aspect is that I myself have been trying to work behind the scenes most of the time. I don’t exactly like to be put in the public because of my reserved nature. Strangely enough I seem to be asked to lead these few years not only at work but for various other functions. I hardly talk much in real life !
No, I am asking how to use feminine wiles or anything in that nature.
I never know how to use that. Maybe I should ? But I do not believe in it either. I am very much down to earth and very plain person on the exterior.
I like to write in a cheery manner. But sometimes it is not well taken espcially on an American forum I realise. When I mean baby it means I am small sized and I have that born baby-ish manner. Thats what some people tell me. I look a whole lot younger than most of my peers and many think I am a graduate student or young professor when they see me. its only after they get to know me that they can beleive I am not that young as they think.
Also, I am very quiet in real life. I like to have some fun writing. The title - MEN is really a way to attract people into the thread. Maybe I shouldn’t have written in that way. What I think is fun may not be fun at all to others.
I simply see this board style forum as a way of making friends in a friendly and casual manner.
I ask the question to see how designers would handle difficult or tacky people… while having my own way of handling them is one way, it would be interesting to see how others would do too.
A note on the differences between how a westerner and an asian would approach when it comes to handling people.
dale carneige is one good approach, but I suspect that not a lot of people are doing what is being told. Also I do not agree that reading only carneige sorts problems. You need to read others too and more importantly do what you preach. Experince and action still prevails. The best is to be receptive to all cultures and be extremely tolerant to even the most difficult people.
The main thing I think is me being felt emabarassing to lead a group of men. I have always feel more comfortable to be the 2nd lead than the main. I am not that short as the russian woman, but definitely small sized.
I am not afraid to lead, but just feel damn shy. I mean those men are huge you know. Further I am soft when it comes to talking. Strangely enough people listen. I think I need to cast that mentality that this is asia and just do what I did when I was in a western country.
Talk with a big stick is not my style. You only breed contempt. If that person was really a trouble, I have my way to get the person tamed without a stick and with no fights.