“looks” are hard to quantify, but to me yes its important in one vital area, they must weigh less than I do by 10%. I am average, 5’8" 160 lbs (not bad for a 52 year old guy) and sorry I find “BB” women just not interesting. Is this being a fat bigot, dont care, I keep my self in shape but it looks like the rest of NA just get down on big gulps, big mac’s and cheezos by the truck load.
People find different things attractive. Once you’ve been with your share of partners, looks become less important. I find myself being more picky (of everything) the older I get. Pretty girls are all over the place, finding one who has her head in the right place is rare. I’ve found in more instances than I would like, the prettier girls have the most personality flaws and end up trying to rely on their looks to get by, even subconsciously.
It’s the ones with the modest, natural good looks combined with a good attitude that have their minds in the right place. Older guys will go for a more toned down woman that has better personality traits. Arm candy is only good to date for a little while, not to marry. Spectacular looks are overrated and once you’re looking at the most beautiful woman every day all day, she becomes average due to familiarity.
Better to go for someone who’s already comfortable looking, everyday pretty. Then there’s less of a change in your perception as time goes by. The prettier the girl, the more change (in the negative direction) there is as she becomes average after everyday exposure. There are plenty of good looking wives sitting at home not being satisfied because the guy has “crashed” and come down off the high since she’s become just regular.
every guy fantasizes about driving a Lamborghini, but when its time to decide on the one car you are going to drive all of the time, you probably want to go with a more reliable car or truck that meets your needs.
I’m with Zippy…please, just don’t be fat. They don’t need to be skinny, god knows I have a little chuck, but fat is a whole different thing. I’m sure some like it like that, but for me it just tells me that you don’t take care of yourself.
The girls I’m always most attracted to are usually t-shirt and jeans type, no make up, no bullshit (well, at least limited). I also like em smart, and motivated about THEIR career. There is nothing worse than a girl who just lives to be in a relationship. They’re boring, and I always feel like I’m babysitting them. So they need to have their own lives outside of dating.