ok count me addicted or inquisitive or even quirkily eccentric but I want to ask :
– how do you handle people ? People who are sort of wierd: sometimes they talk and are enthusiatic. Sometimes they keep totally quiet. Then they could disappear for a long time (like 2 weeks to 2 months) and they’ll reappear again.
– how do you handle people on the internet when they are above you in rank but have done something like: no replies for 1 month for queries and emails you posted ? Do you email again ? Or do you keep quiet and pretend that both sides are ‘dead’ ?
probably stupid questions but than again if I don’t ask I wouldn’t know
Like they say in design consulting, “you’re only as good as your last project” only substitute “posting” for project…
For myself I seem to go through a flurry of postings all at once, and then leave it alone for a few weeks. Could be what you’ve experienced. Granted its not “responsible boarding” but sometimes other things get busy…
I wouldn’t sweat the rankings. You can try the private message for the no-replies, its still relatively anonymous and can’t hurt.
erm… not so much on the forums… i mean in real life emailing job and networking emails…
it can be difficult. I can understand the heaps of emails in the inbox. And the only thing i would do is to hold on and put it aside for days. Latest a week. But not a month… unless … well something happens !
(touch wood)
Stuffs like this happens all the time… I think it happens to me at an abnormal rate!
I once asked another designer, one who runs his office about such behaviour in the industry. He said it’s a bad practice, but even he does it from time to time.
It’s not weird, it’s just that you haven’t gotten used to it yet.
I don’t think I will ever get used to it. I don’t want to.
get them on the phone and give them a nudge, you get alot more feedback over the phone, it also avoids the misinterpration of a email which can happy time to time.
I don’t know what your goal is, but a good rule of thumb is, be persistent but not annoying. It’s difficult to judge where that line is and of course it is always changing.
At the end of the day, the telephone is always superior. For every 100 emails someone receives, they get 1 phone call. That means that one phone call is going to stick out alot more than the 10 emails you sent.
Another point is that alot of people have learned that unopened letters often answer themselves.
Agree that the phone is superior, but in this case it probably isn’t very appropriate… anyway,
another point is if the person doesn’t reply for justified reasons, then it can also be said that there is something really wrong over the other side. It could just be the other person’s fault too for not replying.
yes, email can create problems. But if someone is really that petty to fail to understand that and refuse to reply; then its really the other person’s fault I think… I think I know why there is no reply and if that is the case after explaining, then its really too bad…but I will try again. just to get my side cleared.
I have also emailed to certain academics too. Most replied promptly or at least will give a reply. One particular tenured prof at Illinois, however, seems to miss it for more than 2 months even after emailing a number of times…doesn’t give a good impression at all.
if you could meet him ,pls don’t use phone.If you could phone him pls don’t use E-mail.If you could use MSN/SKY-PE,pls don’t use E-mail.E-mail seems not a good way for communication and easy make some body mistake you.But if no way just E-mail ,pls ask outlook for read reply.It’s my opinion
thanks for the reply. Yes Email can have problems. But I still think that it also shows the persons character too. Many times emails reveal much of a person’s personality more than in person because the tendency to show their true colours are higher.
i still do not like the sounds of someone who just skip emails for so long. I’ve always make a point to think through if I had done anything wrong. If I suspect something from me that is wrong, I will say it directly and apologise. A nice person will reply to that. A bad one will just skip it.
And that itself really shows a lot of the person. I don’t listen to rumours etc, and only take what I observe,
thanks for the reply. Yes Email can have problems. But I still think that it also shows the persons character too. Many times emails reveal much of a person’s personality more than in person because the tendency to show their true colours are higher.
i still do not like the sounds of someone who just skip emails for so long. I’ve always make a point to think through if I had done anything wrong. If I suspect something from me that is wrong, I will say it directly and apologise. A nice person will reply to that. A bad one will just skip it.
And that itself really shows a lot of the person. I don’t listen to rumours etc, and only take what I observe,