Hey Dudes & Dudettes,
I am in a very awkward position and I am wondering how I should cope. I can also use some advice, and willing to accept criticism. I am very down on myself guys. I am in my late twenties and married, and a IDr for 7 years. My boss hired an attractive assistant to sales and production and she sits next to me. We have been extremely cool with eachother, and had lots of fun. We have been alone at times either by leaving from work, getting lunch, going to the storage room and etc. We had chemistry and got alonge well for almost a year. She was single and she knew I was married but we never really talk about my wife. I believe we liked eachother but NEVER did anything. She was the closest person to me at my job. Things was going well untill she finally siad she had a boyfriend a couple of months ago.
I almost felt betrayed in a way because she had one for 5 months and never siad anything. She was very secretive about it. That made a bit sad and I confessed to her that I was surprised and that I had a crush on her. I think that was my mistake because things never was the same afterwards. She stopped wanting to hang around me, I felt she had gotten closer to other females at the job and may have told them about what I siad. I feel that she lost respect for me. It has been a few months after but things are better but she still will not hang around me. I also feel that I did wrong by my wife because I began to think about this girl allot months before. Now when I go to work at times I feel that people (other girls) know what I had siad to her. I had asked her if she told anyone and she lashed out at me once and I never spoke about it agian. Now it seems like we dont like eachother at times. I dont understand why she would not tell me that she had a boyfriend for so long and thats why I cannot trust her with what I told her. I believe she was flirting with me and I was game. Allthough my wife knows that I sit next to her and feels funny that I do, but I did not tell her this story.
Tell me your thoughts.