You seem to have covered what each city will have to offer your out of work life to incorporate you hobbies and social needs…but since this is an ID forum you haven’t mentioned what sort of design you’re in to as each of those cities drastically vary in what kind of work will be available.
Do you want to work in a consultancy or in house? In what sector…houseware, consumer electronics, footwear, packaging etc?
I think that information will be the next piece of the puzzle and we can narrow that city/state list down to 2 or 3 options?